There is nothing like logging into your blog and seeing that someone has googled “My ugly fat friend” and found your blog. How did they find my blog by searching that? Not exactly what an emotional pregnant woman wants to see. I tracked down on google that it was linking it to this blog post. I used the words fat and ugly at the end and it was tagged under friends. So nice how they can put all those words together eh?
It did get me thinking however. If you are calling someone fat and ugly I don’t believe you should use the word friend at all. Would a friend really call another friend fat and ugly. I know they wouldn’t to their face but behind their back it’s a possibility, and not a sign of friendship if you ask me.
I’m sure I’ve been described as one or the other before, possibly even both. I would hope and pray however that people calling me those things were not ones I count among my friends. I have however described myself as that. I did in that post and that’s why it came up in the search. Shouldn’t I be my own best friend, and if so why would I do that?
I hear people in my life constantly complaining about their bodies. Many of whom I see no problem with. It is so hard to grow up on the bigger side of life and always hear others that are much smaller than you whine about how “fat” they are. In elementary school I would come home crying because of all the girls that I thought were beautiful and perfect picking apart their bodies, and I would think “If they are fat what am I?” My mom finally told me to just agree with them. I mean who wants the chubby girl agreeing that they are fat? It worked in 6th grade but somewhere over the years it’s stopped working.
Why do we all have to be SO hard on ourselves, and why do we have to be so vocal about it. My new goal is to focus on the good things, and next time I whine about how bad my body is I am going to make myself pick out three things I like about my body. I would LOVE it if you all did the same.